when you feel like a burden, remember this

It is easy to think you’re too much when the people around you make you feel like your needs are inconvenient. Like you’re constantly asking for things they’re not ready to give — time, attention or reassurance. And when they don’t show up the way you hoped they would, you start believing that maybe the problem is you.

You shrink. You say “never mind” when you mean “please listen.” You start solving things on your own not because you're okay, but because you’re tired of hearing people sigh when you open up. You apologize before you even say how you feel. And you tell yourself, “I don’t want to bother anyone,” but deep down, you just want someone to hold space for you without making you feel like a responsibility.

Here’s what I want you to remember: feeling like a burden doesn’t mean you are one. It usually means you’re surrounded by people who haven’t learned how to hold space for others or for themselves.

We all have moments when we break a little. When we need someone to say, “I’ve got you” and actually mean it. When we want to fall apart without being told to be grateful or strong or quiet. When we want someone to listen without trying to fix us.

You are not too much for needing love in a way that feels safe. You are not dramatic for craving emotional consistency. You are not clingy for wanting someone to stay when it gets hard.

Wanting closeness is not a weakness. Needing comfort is not a flaw.

If no one told you this before, your feelings are valid, and your presence is not a weight. It is not your job to be easy to deal with just to be loved. It’s not your fault if someone else lacks the emotional tools to love you well.

You don’t have to shrink to deserve care.

The right people won’t make you feel like you’re asking for too much. They’ll listen. They’ll show up. They’ll make you feel like your pain isn’t something they have to carry for you, but something they’re willing to sit with beside you.

You don’t need to be less of yourself to be worthy of love. The right kind of love won’t call your tenderness a burden. It’ll recognize it as something beautiful. Something brave. Something human.

And until those people come—until you build that circle—you can be that person for yourself. Slowly and Without guilt.

You're not too much. You're not a burden. You're just someone who feels a lot in a world that often tells us to feel less. But maybe that’s your strength.

And I hope you never unlearn that.

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